Hello World. Speak up Girl!!!

“She’s too fat, she’s too thin, her hair is too curly;she should wear it straight, she’s way too dark, she wears too much make up”. Abuse comes in many forms. If you are upset by something said to you; feel intimidated, threatened, or belittled that is not okay and you have the right to do something about it.

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Image courtesy of psychologytoday.com

Wikipedia describes psychological abuse as “a form of abuse, characterized by a person subjecting, or exposing, another person to behavior that may result in psychological trauma, including anxiety, chronic depression, or post-traumatic stress disorder. Such abuse is often associated with situations of power imbalance, such as abusive relationships, bullying, gaslighting and abuse in the workplace”.

Lately social media has been a buzz with too many incidents where girls are being bullied by other girls. Another recent social media craze surfaced where memes are created of people who don’t fit in with what society deems as beautiful or normal.

One meme in particular, of Lizzie Velasquez who suffers from a rare condition recently went viral. Lizzie, a motivational speaker chose to speak up about the abuse she has had to endure.

How many people don’t speak up though and how many of us accept what we see on social media without questioning, without doing anything, without standing up against this type of abuse. Why? Have we become that desensitized.

If you are a mother, a teacher, carer or mentor , if you are a woman you have a responsibility. We can not allow ourselves to be desensitized . We need to teach our girls to stand up and speak up. They do not need to be subjected to bullying, body shaming, or any other kind of abuse. We need to empower them by exposing them to campaigns such as End Girl Hate. We need to equip our children with the right tools,whatever that may be. We need to do something to end this BS.

Useful Numbers- Share it!Save it!
Jag Foundation
(+27) 21 761 2758 info@jagfoundation.org.za
http://jagfoundation.org.za

South African Depression and Anxiety Group
011 234 4837 or 0800 20 50 26
Our Substance Abuseline
0800 12 13 14 is available 24hrs.
http://www.sadag.org

Childline
0800055555
http://www.childlinesa.org.za

Unicef South Africa
https://www.unicef.org/southafrica/voices_10715.html

Lifeline
0800-150-150
http://lifelinesa.co.za/

Nationwide Emergency Response – 10111

Stop Gender Based Violence helpline
(0800 150 150)

Suicide Crisis Line
0800 567 567

Human Trafficking
08000 737 283 (08000 rescue) / 082 455 3664

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Red your Lips

As the saying goes ‘ Give a woman the right lipstick and she can conquer the world’ or is that shoes?! Either way lipstick has magical powers that can transform your mood, your day  and your life. To me red lipstick is the little black dress of cosmetics, a classic that every women needs in her arsenal of awesome. As much as your favorite party dress can lift your mood, the same is true for a good red lipstick. It has the ability to push your confidence from 0 to 100 in two seconds.

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Marilyn Monroe

Lipstick dates back about 5000 years where ancient Sumerian’s crushed gemstones to decorate their faces and Egyptians, like the fabulous Cleopatra crushed bugs to create the reddish color. The symbolism surrounding lipstick have changed over the years, from being associated with actor,independence, status, prostitution to femininity , power and confidence booster.

Besides the aesthetic value, lipstick has lent its power to sexual violence . You may have heard of ‘Red my lips‘, founded by Danielle Tansino. A campaign created to raise awareness. Men and Women across the world rock red lips throughout Sexual Assault Awareness Month (April) in solidarity with survivors.

For me wearing Red lipstick is about my journey as a woman. One day fierce & confident and the next drowning in life and what it throws at me. I realize I might be luckier than most and wearing my red lips is a daily reminder of this.

My favorite ‘go-to’s’ right now is Essence in shade 02 “All you need is Red” for an everyday tint, which is really moisture rich. NYX -MLS10 in shade ‘Perfect Red’ for a more matte look, my old faithful Mac ‘Russian Red’ for Saturday morning ‘run-arounds’ & my favorite Mac ‘Retro Matte Feels So Grand’ for a night out. What does Red lips do for you?  Please share your favorite shades with me so I can take my red lips to the next level.As always thank you for reading!